Naa Ashardey & Phillip: Living in Love
BEYOND THE GLAM
The fairytale is always beautiful while it lasts. And that’s fine — you’re allowed to savor every moment of it. Soon, you’d have to reset and get back to life. Hence the question: Beyond the glam, what’s next?
In this article, we’d attempt to answer this pressing question — in relation to family life. Be it nuclear or extended, there are many expectations placed on us. It gets fuzzy sometimes, because you have to not only deal with personal changes, but with a new family too.
However, it doesn’t have to be that way…
Naa Asharday serving looks at her traditional marriage ceremony
WHAT’S NEXT: FAMILY LIFE
With marriage comes a big change, and how you deal with this change is everything.
1. Your Parents
For many years, your parents were one of your main emotional supports. After you get married, your spouse becomes one of your key sources of support, and the change can be challenging for both you and your parents.
For the sake of your marriage, get into the habit of turning to your partner first, and encouraging them to do the same. It is not advisable to consult parents about your problems, unless things become really complicated.
Yet this does not mean you have to push them away. Find time to catch up with them so they do not feel left out.
2. Your In-Laws
With in-laws, expect the worst and hope for the best. They’re usually tough to deal with and that’s pretty normal. They may bud in too much or be too scrutinizing, but you have to find a way to make it work.
The best way to dealing with them is by setting boundaries. Discuss with your spouse on the limits of in-law intrusion and present a solid front with your spouse always. You would also have to learn to keep your cool, coupling that with a sense of humor whenever you sense tension. Many times, the best thing to do is nothing.
Another tip is to keep your distance from in-laws, geographically. This way you’re sure no one is showing up unannounced.
3. Your children
You would certainly start your own family sometime along the line. Adapting at that point is the most difficult one of them all. Effective parenting is no walk in the park. Prepare to go through a LOT; physically, mentally, emotionally and financially.
Some important tips you can use include;
- Making time for your kids — Find a balance between time for your spouse, kids and caree; with your children at the top of the list.
- Boosting their self-esteem — Your words and actions as a parent affect their developing self-esteem more than anything else.
- Being disciplined — You cannot expect to train your child, or anyone else if you’re not disciplined yourself.
- Setting limits — and being consistent with your rules.
- Communicating — Take time to explain, values and motives to your kids.
- Planning finances — Else you would run your accounts dry because raising children can be expensive.
NAA ASHARDEY & PHILLIP #Philash2019
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- Mua: @glambar_gh
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Decor- @queenscourteventcentre and @purplepaletteevents
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